I have lived long enough in this life to understand so many things, and many of the things I now know, I didn’t know them 10, 15 or even 20 years ago. So it happens that we learn as each day progresses in life. So, what are the lessons you learned too late in life? Let us know. I’ll go first:
You can’t change anybody to love you: I learned this one when I got married to my beastly husband. The red flag has been there before marriage that the idiot really didn’t love me, but we forced love on ourselves, and you know what happened! A ruined relationship packed with several cases of domestic violence that anyone could ever think of! Well in learning my lessons, I took to my heels to save my soul and that of my kid. Well, I now know today not to love someone who doesn’t love me back!
Don’t lend your friends money you cannot afford to lose: This is actually for friendship case. If your friend fails to refund your money on time; especially when you need it most and it has passed the deadline he/she gave you when borrowing, it will cause big issues between you both. And even if that’s not the case and your money gets refunded earlier, you will still have to fall into other issues with the same friend as regards money.
You can’t teach an old dog a new trick: This point is actually related to my first point, but I’ll use another explanation for this. In 2016, I took my then husband to one of his family members who is the only one who believed in our marriage from his side to help speak with him and proffer solutions to the issues we had in our marriage. The man gave some valid points and steps for him to follow, but being who he is, he couldn’t do what was needed of him to keep his home. And as at then, I was working to feed the family while he brings little to no money home at all. The lesson been that even though his uncle wanted to help him with modern methods of keeping a home, he preferred to do it the egomaniac and patriachial way. He lost me and his boy forever. Let me also add that he remarried when I left. I just heard about a month ago that the new woman has also left him to his silly self.
These are some key lessons I learned too late in life but I was happy to have learned them and survived. What are yours?